Archive for the ‘Boca Raton Psychologist’ Category

Building Healthy Relationships: Trends in Couples Therapy

October 23, 2010

Today I attended a workshop on “Trends in Couples Therapy” presented by the internationally renowned psychologist, Dr.  F. W. Kaslow.  She remarked that “more remarried couples…bring residual backage from prior  marriages.”                      

In my practice, I try to cut this off at the pass, by working with divorcing individuals to encourage them to engage in building healthy relationships with their spouse.  they get divorced with less emotional turmoil – notably less anger and depression. 

In marriage counseling, I tell the couple that I will help them bring more stability and happiness to the marriage and less angst.  Then after a given period, perhaps six months, they can decide whether to remain together or get divorced.  If they choose divorce, they are less likely to bring the emotional baggage to the next relationship.

Irving M. Nadler, Ph.D., Boca Raton Psychologist, working at building healthy relationships.        Tel:  561-361-0711

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Building Healthy Relationships: Economic Stress Causing You Relationship Woes

October 8, 2010

As I was cleaning my desk, I came across a reprint of a blog by Dr. Goodstone about my ideas of how to build healthy realtionships during stressful economic times.  http://www.examiner.com/relationships-in-miami/economic-stress-causing-you-relationship-woes-some-simple-solutions?render=print     This was in May 2009, but the suggestions are valid today.                                                                                                                                 1.   Accept your spouse or significant other “as is” “in their attitude toward financial matters and having a non-judgmental discussion about change”.                                                                                                                                                      2.  “Find “stuff” to do to enhance the relationship and reduce stress”. …”make dates to go to free concerts, walk along the beach, or spend time in a local park.”                                                                                                                                             3.  “Become more sensual and sexual…hold hands.”                                                                                                                                                          4.  “Try giving your spouse a movie star kiss unexpectedly”.

I did the last and my wife of 40 years said “What did you do?”  I told her I was only taking the advice of a famous psychologist and showed her the internet article.

Suggestion – use the above for building healthy relationships.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711   www.DoctorNadler.com

Boca Raton Psychologist: Drinking Water Proven to Help Weight Loss

October 4, 2010

Brenda Davy recently presented the first randomized controlled study about the effects of drinking water on weight loss to the American Chemical Society http://news.discovery.com/human/glass-water-weight-loss.html?print=true   Two groups of adults, ages 55-75, were put on a low-calorie diet.   One group drank two glasses of water prior to each meal and they lost 15.5 pounds over the course of 12 weeks. The other group,which did not drink water before meals lost 11 pounds.  The water drinkers consumed fewer calories.

The conclusion for those of us who wish to lose weight (myself included) is to consume water prior to meals.  The water gives the dieter a feeling of a full stomach and may also prevent consuming drinks with calories.

The Boca Raton Psychologist, Dr. Nadler,  will give this article to those of  his clients interested in the psychology of weight loss.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711   www.DoctorNadler.com

Boca Raton Psychologist: Can Money Buy Happiness?

September 28, 2010

Last month, “Can Money Buy Happiness?” by Sonja Lyubomirsky appeared in Scientific American.   Wealth can enable us to purchase many things, but at the same time, it may impair our ability to enjoy those things.  Wealth can undermine our ability to savor life’s small pleasures.  Although we may able to fly in a private jet, can we enjoy a sunny day after a week of rain or spend an enjoyable hour with a friend a Starbucks?

We have a choice – we can become janitors of the things that money can buy or we can use money to improve our emotional well-being.  Research shows that some of the things that can bring us happiness by spending money are as follows:  activities that help us grow as a person (taking guitar lessons);  strengthening relations with others (dinner with a friend);  contributing to the community (catering a fundraiser);  spending money on small pleasures (fresh flowers); splurging on something we work hard to get; etc.  In these challenging economic times, Doctor Nadler, Boca Raton Psychologist, helps his clients find more happiness without great wealth.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711   www.DoctorNadler.com

Boca Raton Psychologist: Can Exercise Moderate Anger?

August 26, 2010

The Boca Raton Psychologist blogs interesting and potentially useful information about psychology.  Gretchen Reynolds wrote an article in the NY Times magazine section – “Can Exercise Moderate Anger?”  Research has indicated that exercise, particularly aerobic exercise has a positive effect on both depression and anxiety.  In a study of college students with high trait anger, i.e., a tendency to experience anger more so than the average person, were presented with neutral slides and slides designed to evoke anger.   On alternate days, the subjects either sat quietly or rode a stationary bike.  The dependent variable measures were  electrical activity of the brain and self-report of anger on a 0 – 9 scale.  The results showed that on both measures, exercise can reduce anger.  Previously studies have indicated serotonin as the brain chemical involved in angry feelings.

Certainly, much more work is needed to demonstrate the effect.  However, routinely recommends exercise for all my clients (with their physician’s approval of course) who have either anxiety or depression.  Now, in addition, the Boca Raton Psychologist  will refer clients with anger management issues to this blog to help motivate them to include exercise in their life.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711   www.DoctorNadler.com

Dealing with Anxiety and Stress: Understanding Anxiety Disorders and Effective Treatment III

August 17, 2010

In Good Practice the issue of importance of treating anxiety disorders is not just the alleviation of the symptoms, but if left untreated, there may be adverse consequences.  Family life and job performance may suffer; and there is a greater tendency to find solutions in drugs and alcohol.

Effective treatments are available for anxiety disorders.  Cognitive behavior therapy is an evidence based treatment.  That means research demonstrates that it is effective.  With cognitive therapy, the client learns that his /her thoughts lead to symptoms.  When these thoughts are identified, they can be changed by the client with practice so as to alleviate the frequency and intensity of  the anxiety symptoms.  When behavior therapy is combined with cognitive therapy, the undesirable behaviors can be reduced or stopped altogether.

Dr. Nadler has been using cognitive behavioral therapy for anxiety for several decades to help people feel better and find more happiness.  His doctoral dissertation, way back in 1976, was about a paradigm using self-instructions (cognitions) to lessen test anxiety.  Dealing with anxiety and stress is one of his areas of expertise.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711   www.DoctorNadler.com

Dealing with Anxiety and Stress: Understanding Anxiety Disorders and Effective Treatment II

August 13, 2010

Continuing the educational article from Good Practice, the major types of anxiety disorders are delineated – generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder. (These can be googled for comprehensive information).  The anxiety disorders not only have psychological components, but also have physical components, which may include  symptoms such as insomnia and racing heart beat.

When anxiety disorders go untreated, the suffering continues.  About 30 years ago Dr. Nadler’s colleagues named him “Dr. Relax” because his calm demeanor was contagious.  His clients were generally more at ease even in the very first session.  In addition, he teaches a variety of anxiety reduction techniques that are quite beneficial to his clients. 

Dr. Nadler has a passion for helping people to diminish their anxiety and thereby improve their relationships, work more effectively and find more happiness.  Dealing with anxiety and stress is one of his specialties.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711   www.DoctorNadler.com

Building Healthy Relationships: Pre-empting Marital Strife

July 4, 2010

This past week’s Science Times section of the NY Times had an article -“Seeking to Pre-empt Marital Strife”.  There were three interesting  aspects of the article –

1.  Nearly two-thirds of divorcing couples never sought couple therapy.

2.  Yearly check-ups of one’s marital state are important for building healthy relationships.

3.  “Acceptance therapy” consists of better understanding a partner’s flaws.

I will focus on failure to seek couple therapy in this blog and address the other two issues in future blogs.  Some couples do not wish to avail themselves of couple therapy because that means they have failed in their relationship.   In my practice, I state in the first session that my goal for the couple is to build a healthier relationship and subsequently to decide whether they wish to remain married.  It has seemed to me that the couples find this a reasonable goal and are more willing to work toward that outcome.  They can be successful and still get divorced. The divorce will be more amicable and life after divorce will be much healthier emotionally.  Although I believe that gender of the therapist is a preference and is not one of the major variables related to outcome in any form of psychotherapy, some men can be reluctant to engage in couple therapy with a female counselor (that makes it two against one). They are more agreeable to work with me, a gray-haired non-threatening male.  Thus, building healthy relationships via marital therapy can serve to pre-empt divorce.

Boca Raton Psychologist

June 23, 2010

From theheart.org, the June 29, 2010 issue of  the Journal of the American College of Cardiology has two articles and an editorial this month about anxiety predicting heart disease years later.  In one of the studies, 50,000 men were followed for 37 years.  Those with anxiety disorders were twice as likely to suffer from heart disease or an acute heart attack.  In the other study, with an 11 year follow-up, there was a 50% increase in  risk of cardiac death for people with anxiety disorders.

What does this mean for anxious people?  Seek help very early.  What does this mean for cardiologists? Evaluate your clients for anxiety and refer them for treatment when indicated.  What does this mean for the Boca Raton Psychologist AKA “Dr. Relax”?  Inform your clients about the relationship between anxiety and heart disease, the importance of  treatment and the importance of  practicing relaxation and stress management techniques forever.  (Don’t we brush our teeth every day?) Furthermore, follow-up with your psychologist when anxiety provoking life events (such as graduation, marriage, having children, retirement, etc) occur.

Boca Raton Psychologist

June 23, 2010

In this weeks Science Times, Jane Brody writes about “When tanning turns into an addiction.”  Frequent tanners showed signs of both physiological and psychological addiciton.  Release of endorphins (naturally occurring morphine like substances in the brain) are believed to be the physiological components for tanning addiction.  Relaxation, mood enhancement, looking healthier and socialization seem to be psychological components of the addiction. 

Melanoma can be deadly (from my personal experience, my cousin and a dear friend both died from metastatic melanoma).  Psychologists, especially those in South Florida, should evaluate the symptoms of “addiction to tanning”  and help their clients change their behaviors to healthier ones.

Dr. Nadler, A Boca Raton Psychologist, offers a free telephone consultation to prospective clients.