Archive for October, 2010

Building Healthy Relationships: Trends in Couples Therapy

October 23, 2010

Today I attended a workshop on “Trends in Couples Therapy” presented by the internationally renowned psychologist, Dr.  F. W. Kaslow.  She remarked that “more remarried couples…bring residual backage from prior  marriages.”                      

In my practice, I try to cut this off at the pass, by working with divorcing individuals to encourage them to engage in building healthy relationships with their spouse.  they get divorced with less emotional turmoil – notably less anger and depression. 

In marriage counseling, I tell the couple that I will help them bring more stability and happiness to the marriage and less angst.  Then after a given period, perhaps six months, they can decide whether to remain together or get divorced.  If they choose divorce, they are less likely to bring the emotional baggage to the next relationship.

Irving M. Nadler, Ph.D., Boca Raton Psychologist, working at building healthy relationships.        Tel:  561-361-0711

Building Healthy Relationships: Economic Stress Causing You Relationship Woes

October 8, 2010

As I was cleaning my desk, I came across a reprint of a blog by Dr. Goodstone about my ideas of how to build healthy realtionships during stressful economic times.     This was in May 2009, but the suggestions are valid today.                                                                                                                                 1.   Accept your spouse or significant other “as is” “in their attitude toward financial matters and having a non-judgmental discussion about change”.                                                                                                                                                      2.  “Find “stuff” to do to enhance the relationship and reduce stress”. …”make dates to go to free concerts, walk along the beach, or spend time in a local park.”                                                                                                                                             3.  “Become more sensual and sexual…hold hands.”                                                                                                                                                          4.  “Try giving your spouse a movie star kiss unexpectedly”.

I did the last and my wife of 40 years said “What did you do?”  I told her I was only taking the advice of a famous psychologist and showed her the internet article.

Suggestion – use the above for building healthy relationships.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711

Boca Raton Psychologist: Drinking Water Proven to Help Weight Loss

October 4, 2010

Brenda Davy recently presented the first randomized controlled study about the effects of drinking water on weight loss to the American Chemical Society   Two groups of adults, ages 55-75, were put on a low-calorie diet.   One group drank two glasses of water prior to each meal and they lost 15.5 pounds over the course of 12 weeks. The other group,which did not drink water before meals lost 11 pounds.  The water drinkers consumed fewer calories.

The conclusion for those of us who wish to lose weight (myself included) is to consume water prior to meals.  The water gives the dieter a feeling of a full stomach and may also prevent consuming drinks with calories.

The Boca Raton Psychologist, Dr. Nadler,  will give this article to those of  his clients interested in the psychology of weight loss.

Irving Nadler, PhD    Tel:  561-361-0711